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# Don't Stare at Men or Talk Too Much
# Don't Stare at Men or Talk Too Much
# Recommend "The Rules" to all of your stupid Whore friends
# Recommend "The Rules" to all of your stupid Whore friends
# Don't Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date
# Don't Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date << what the fuck is a dutch date.. sounds gay, so probably not a good "Rule"
# Don't Call Him & Rarely Return His Calls
# Don't Call Him & Rarely Return His Calls
# Always End Phone Calls and dates First
# Always End Phone Calls and dates First

Revision as of 01:56, 3 August 2011

The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right
Book Cover
The Rules book cover
AuthorEllen Fein
Sherrie Schneider
Cover artistDiane Luger
LanguageEnglish
SubjectRelationships, Dating
GenreSelf-help
PublisherGrand Central Publishing,
(Warner Books)
Publication date
1995-02-14
Publication placeUSA
Media typePrint
Pages192
ISBN0-446-51813-1
OCLC30915354
646.7/7 20
LC ClassHQ801 .F44 1995
Followed byThe Rules II: More Rules to Live and Love By 

The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right is a controversial self-help book by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, originally published in 1995.[1]

The book argues that in order to attract and marry the man of her dreams, a woman should be "hard to get".[2] A woman who follows "the rules" is called a Rules Girl.[1] The underlying philosophy of which is that women should not aggressively pursue men, but rather ought to get the men to pursue them.

The book was followed by The Rules II: More Rules to Live and Love By, The Rules for Marriage, The Rules for Online Dating, and All the Rules. In The Rules II (p. 60), published in 1997, Fein and Schneider proclaim, "If he doesn't call, he's not that interested. Period!"

Reaction

The book generated much discussion upon its release. Some considered it useful and motivational, while others described it as outdated[3] and antifeminist,[4] or a how-to guide that teaches women to play games which toy with men.[5] Others noted that Fein was an accountant and Schneider a freelance journalist, i.e., without any professional qualification in the subject matter.[6] The authors admitted they were not professionals in an appearance on NBC's The Today Show.[2] They have attempted to counter the criticism regarding their lack of credentials by citing the results of following The Rules.[2]

In 2001 the followup book The Rules for Marriage: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work was released in the midst of Fein's legal separation from her husband to whom she had been married for sixteen years.[6] Fein commented on her divorce by saying that she had "married the right man" for her at that stage in her life. Her argument was that after having written a best seller and raising two children, she and her husband discovered they were two different people from the young couple that fell in love.

The Rules

  1. Buy our book, "The Rules"
  2. Be a “Creature” Unlike Any Other
  3. Don't Talk to a Man First (and Don't Ask Him to Dance)
  4. Don't Stare at Men or Talk Too Much
  5. Recommend "The Rules" to all of your stupid Whore friends
  6. Don't Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date << what the fuck is a dutch date.. sounds gay, so probably not a good "Rule"
  7. Don't Call Him & Rarely Return His Calls
  8. Always End Phone Calls and dates First
  9. Don't Accept a Saturday Night Date after Wednesday.
  10. Fill Up Your Time before the Date
  11. NEVER STOP FOLLOWING... THE RULES!!!
  12. How to Act on Dates 1,2, and 3
  13. How to Act on Dates 4 through Commitment Time
  14. ALWAYS end the date first
  15. Stop Dating Him if He Doesn't Buy You a Romantic Gift for Your Birthday or Valentine's Day
  16. Don’t See Him More than Once or Twice a Week <<-- literally the ONLY rule on here that might work
  17. No More than Casual Kissing on the First Date
  18. Don't Rush into Sex, Wait at Least Three Dates
  19. Don't Tell Him What to Do
  20. Let Him Take the Lead
  21. Don't Expect a Man to Change or Try to Change Him
  22. Open up Fast
  23. Don’t Open Up Too Fast
  24. Be Honest but Mysterious
  25. Be Mysterious but Honest
  26. Accentuate the Positive & Other Rules for Personal Ads <-- Wat?
  27. Don’t Live with a Man (or Leave Your Things in His Apartment)
  28. Don't Date a Married Man
  29. Slowly Involve Him in Your Family & Other Rules for Women with Children <<-- nahhhhh
  30. Practice, Practice, Practice! (or, Getting Good at The Rules)
  31. Even if You're Engaged or Married, You Still Need The Rules
  32. Do The Rules, Even when Your Friends & Parents Think You're a Dumb Fucking Bitch
  33. Be Smart and Other Rules for Dating in High School
  34. Take Care of Yourself and Other Rules for Dating in College
  35. NEXT! & Other Rules for Dealing with Rejection
  36. Don't Discuss The Rules with Your Therapist.
  37. Don't Break The Rules!
  38. Did you buy "The Rules" Yet??
  39. Do The Rules and You’ll Live Happily Ever After!.. in loneliness
  40. Love Only Those Who Love You.. probably no one if you've correctly followed "The Rules"
  41. Be Easy to Live With
  42. If you haven't realized that the two dykes who wrote this book are way off by now, and you have correctly followed "The Rules," then Mr. Right broke up with you by now. Try banging him on the first date next time and you might not be so alone.

References

  • Fein, Ellen (1995). The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right. Warner Books. ISBN 0-446-51813-1. {{cite book}}: Unknown parameter |coauthors= ignored (|author= suggested) (help)
  1. ^ a b Gerston, Jill (1996-06-07). "So Many Rules, So Little Time". The New York Times. Retrieved 2008-06-08. it will appear as the No.1 paperback on the New York Times best-seller list for advice, how-to, and miscellaneous books
  2. ^ a b c "Playing hard to get is still the best way to get married, 'The Rules' book says - book 'The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right' by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider". Jet. Johnson Publishing. 1996-10-21. Retrieved 2008-06-08.
  3. ^ Gleick, Elizabeth (1996-09-30). "Playing Hard To Get". Time Magazine. Retrieved 2008-06-08. "This is pretty old-fashioned stuff," says Brown, editor of Cosmopolitan
  4. ^ "The Rules for Marriage: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work.(Review)". Library Journal. 2001-05-15. Retrieved 2008-06-08. When it first came out, critics attacked The Rules (1996) for being anti-feminist
  5. ^ Razer, Helen (2004-01-15). "The perky pursuit of Mr Right". The Age. Retrieved 2008-06-08. The Rules is a set of tricks and gimmicks and it's about acting in a false way to attract men
  6. ^ a b Witchel, Alex (2001-05-06). "COUNTERINTELLIGENCE; 'Rules' Books Sell Millions, But Mr. Right Takes a Hike". The New York Times. Retrieved 2008-06-08. Though the publisher is moving full speed ahead with a first printing ... Ms. Fein ... has filed for a legal separation from her husband of 16 years
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